My thoughts after listening to episode 3: The big man can't shoot

 

All people live together, interact each other and influence as they communicate. Every people live in their individual lives and as time goes they become more ignorant to each other.

However, we should look at our inner conscience which differs when we are with other people.

When I was in middle school, I was passing the severe times thinking that everyone is looking at me. I was a very energetic and bright student who wants to make other people laugh a lot, but one time , one friend of mine told me that “you look so funny when you sprinkle your nose and laugh.”. I just laughed with my friend’s word, but then I went to the restroom, standing in front of the window and made a smiley face. When I looked at my face, it was so ugly and I could barely look at my face. After that time, I had an extreme horror in my mind of watching at all kinds of materials that can reflects my face and also I really hated to take a picture and see my face. When I had to go to the supermarket, I often wore a mask and those kinds of acts slowly changed my personality. The person who always laughed a lot and often get scolded by the teachers, became very quiet and a passive person. One time, the way my mom and I was heading to the hospital, we were waiting for the elevator. Especially, that day my mom was staring at my face for a long time with a strange face, so I asked why she was looking at my face so closely. She answered, “ I thought your nose was a little higher than now, and why are your eyes too small. It will be fine when you grow and get some slight surgeries. haha “. I was angry so angry that I didn’t recognize that I felt the deep anger in my heart, but meanwhile I was embarrassed and hurt by her single words. From those scars, I began to think what other people look and think of me and I used to try to fit inside them just following what they are saying. Now, I overcame those kinds of wounded scars however, sometimes those memories evoke me and give me fear. I believe not only for my previous cases, most of the people would have the memories that they should consider others than keeping what they really feel and want. Also in the revisionist history podcast, although the basket players could gain more scores by throwing underhand, because of the peer pressure that they feel from the other people’s sight, they didn’t choose to use the method. Then, in our daily lives, what gives us the power or courage to overcome the peer pressure? In the podcast, Malcom Gladwell suggests the concept of the threshold of each people.

In my very own personal thoughts, I think overcoming the peer pressure depends on each individual’s mind not on the surroundings. I think it is important to consider the priority of their own actions and they always check and compare the costs between their own personal acts that they want to take and the amount of pressure they feel from others. If the person considers about how people think about him or herself, the person can never overcome the peer pressure.

Eventually, the guts and bravery to do what they really want advent from the subtle change and movement of their minds. In my case, just telling myself that I am a valuable person no matter others say actually helped me a lot to think like that and it changed my mind. Those change of mind led to the changes of my actions, personality and inner confidence.  The fear and the potentials to get over and to break the walls coexist inside every people, however to overcome it or just to follow what other says depends on each effort to alter their minds.